"Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching." Hebrews 10:24-25 (NIV)
If you hang around with church folk very long, you will hear them speak about "covering." I remember when I first heard this phrase, I assumed they were talking about covering up. But there is a huge difference between covering and covering up.
There is only one time in the New Testament that the word "cover" is used in that context, and that is in I Peter 4:8 - "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." (NIV). Sometimes this passage is misinterpreted to mean that our love for each other blots out our sin. Make no mistake: The only love that can cancel out sin is the love of Jesus manifested in his death on the cross. What Peter is talking about here is the unconditional love and acceptance that should be present in the Body of Christ creating an environment where we feel safe and secure to confess our sins to one another and repent.
James also painted this picture of how the church ought to function in his epistle: "…confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." (James 5:16, NIV)
Sadly, in most church fellowships that love and acceptance is not present. This results in an environment where we dare not confess our faults to each other for fear we will become fodder for the gossip mill. Here’s another way to look at it: When we don’t have the love covering, we have a cover up. So we come to the one place on earth where we should be able to be real and we put a mask on and hide what we are feeling, what we are thinking, and what we are struggling with.
There is no doubt in my mind that the epidemic we are currently seeing in moral failures, divorces and scandals among pastors and church leaders has it’s roots in the lack of "covering love" present in the church. In most cases, these Pastors were too proud or too isolated to seek out accountability partners.
For every high profile leader who fails, there are scores of deacons, elders, teachers and others in the church who suffer the same fate out of the spotlight. This is why the divorce rate is higher in the church than outside the church! You don’t dare come to church and admit you and your spouse are struggling and need prayer, help and support, so you suffer in silence while your marriage and family crumbles around you.
This lack of "covering love" in the church is the spirit of the Pharisees, not that of Jesus! When Jesus encountered those struggling with sin He responded with compassion and understanding, saying "I don’t condemn you." This in spite of the fact that He is the only person who has the right to condemn sinners. You and I don’t have that right. We are like the Pharisees with rocks in their hands waiting to throw them and the sinful woman; When Jesus reminded them of their own sin, one by one they dropped their stones and walked away, knowing they were every bit as guilty as she.
If your church, Sunday School class, or small group doesn’t provide this atmosphere of acceptance, you need to seek out accountability and covering for your life. Covering up your sin will only result in repeating the same behavior. So, find a group of people that you can be totally transparent with and hold each other accountable. I am not exaggerating to say that failure to find accountability in your life can result in at best stagnation and at worst ruin for your spiritual life and your reputation.
Seeking out and taking advantage of an environment where love covers will be one of the hardest, yet most rewarding things you will ever do. You cannot put a price on a clear conscience, and the knowledge that there are people who know you completely yet love you anyway. It is in this environment that you can begin to understand the unconditional love that God loves you with. And you realize that you aren’t the "Lone Ranger." Your brothers and sisters are struggling in the same areas that you are struggling in!
5 Comments Received
October 23rd, 2007 @9:16 am
This was such an true & awesome piece. I rec’d this today in my email from streaming faith & was truly bless. It’s really sad that the church is so judgemental & this is the place for sick, hurting people, yet we can’t confided in one another afraid we will be judged. So, we keep things to ourselves & continue to hurt, or take it to the Father for His Grace,Mercy & forgiveness & loving kindness. Keep up the good work!
October 25th, 2007 @9:46 am
Alan. It is amazing that someone sent me this blog at this point in my life when this is exactly what I am facing!!!! It is so frustrating and the story of course goes deeper and Id like to share that with you. Your blog on the Difference between covering and covering up is so true- I cant tell you how it feels to have no accountabillity in your church and have a husband bound by the grips of lust and have to suffer through it and deal with it all alone not able to trust anyone in your church because of his past. I am in the most hurtful frustrating time in my life because of this and other things and I want to thank you for this article- you can contact me at tjpraise90@hotmail.com- Blessings
November 29th, 2007 @7:00 am
Re: Your comments of Oprah’s Favorite Things Show.
Of all the analogies to make, you pick Oprah. From what I gather, you did not even see the telecast. Oprah is criticized if she gives, and criticized if she does not give. No where but in America.
Pat Moorehead
November 29th, 2007 @11:40 am
Thanks for the comment, Pat. I think you misunderstood - I was not criticizing Oprah at all. In fact, I think her generousity is inspiring. I kinda wish I’d been in the audience that day! I was making a contrast about how we get so excited over free gifts in the physical realm yet sometimes fail to been properly grateful for God’s gift of eternal life, which is of so much more value than temporal things.
(In case readers were wondering, Pat is referencing today’s Streaming Faith Daily Devotional that I wrote. http://www.streamingfaith.com/community/devotional/devotional.aspx?DevotionalId=1266)
February 29th, 2008 @1:13 pm
I just read the piece today and thought it was wonderful. I recently divorced my husband, because of his infidelity. Although that was hard and crippling the breaking point came from the response from my former church. When I took it to the Pastor she said she would speak to him. After speaking to him she said he needed time to cool off. He cheated, but he needed time to cool off. I felt isolated because he had grown up in that church and we I did not feel comfortable sharing witb my church. Covering love was what I needed but cover up was what was asked of me. I left there broken, but God’s restorative covering love has sent me to a church where it may not be perfect, but healing is taking place.
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